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7 Ways to Compliment A Woman Without Being Creepy


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social settings, compliments work as a subtle form of cognitive training — when we compliment the qualities and actions we like in other people, we train ourselves to focus on the good in the world around us. This also encourages positive behavior in the people we’re complimenting.

In the world of dating, compliments can be a great way to flirt, demonstrate your interest, or, if you’re already in a committed relationship, show your appreciation for your partner. In fact, according to University of Zurich researcher Christoph Korn, receiving a compliment lights up the same two neurological reward centers that light up during an orgasm.

However, there is a caveat — a bad compliment can make you come across as annoying, insensitive, or even downright creepy. How do you craft the perfect compliment for a woman that shows your appreciation without crossing into creep territory? Here are a few tips and tricks!

1. Be Unique

The best compliments feel tailor-made.

Etiquette expert Diane Gottsman warns that generic compliments that could apply to anyone, like “you’ve got a nice smile” or “your hair is pretty”, often come across as superficial.

If you want your compliment to be well received, be authentic and speak from the heart — tell her what it is that makes her special.

A good compliment demonstrates that you’ve made an effort to get to know her.

Stay away from cookie-cutter compliments.

Try to think beyond common adjectives like “pretty”, “smart”, or “nice”, and dig deeper into these descriptors.

A Quora survey on the best way to give compliments revealed that some of the most meaningful ones pinpoint things that casual observers or mere acquaintances might not notice: hobbies, personal style, hard work, attitude, etc.

If you’re complimenting a friend, coworker, or casual acquaintance, a specific compliment can be a great way to nudge the two of you into a closer relationship!

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