Take Control of Your Emotions

We all have our insecurities in some form or another. You’re a human being and that’s fine. But here’s the thing, it’s not the insecurities that are the problem, it’s how you deal with them as a man. Do you hide them deep within yourself and whenever pressure is applied they spring up and manifest themselves in some uncontrollable outburst? Maybe you try to play off your insecurities by playing tricks or lying to yourself? Or do you just let your insecurities get the best of you in any situation and you have no control over your own actions? It’s all about how you deal with them that matters. If something is really bothering you and you want to get it handled, don’t be
ashamed to get help. A great starting point is to get books on the issue that you may be dealing with. A good book can do wonders for helping you to solve your inner conflicts, and there are thousands of self-help books that can give you some pretty rock solid advice. Also, if there is someone you trust that can help you with an issue, then don’t be afraid to ask him or her (preferably “him”) for help. If it seems to be a serious relationship or intimacy issue, I’d advise counselling or pastoral help as opposed to just anybody. Or better yet, be open and honest about it with the woman in your life. A good woman is one that will support you even though you may have weaknesses and emotional insecurities. And her supporting you will be based on how you decide to deal with your inner conflicts. Remember that becoming a better man isn’t about becoming Mr. Perfect. No man is flawless in every area of his life, and a really good woman knows this. But believe me, an intelligent, quality woman can tell when you’re hiding something or trying to keep a deep-rooted issue under wraps. It’s better to be honest about something that you’re uncomfortable with than to just let something get out of control later on. If she sees that you’re trying to help yourself, a good woman will want to help you as well. This is especially true if she realizes that even with your inner conflicts you’re still exercising self-discipline by adhering to the principles that you live by. This is the beauty of having a set of standards to follow because your insecurities and personal issues will never dictate your decision-making. No matter what our inner conflicts are as men, and no matter what may be going on around us, as long as we allow our thoughts and actions to be based on sound principles for living successfully we’ll always come out on top. Therefore, always keep in mind that… A good woman loves a man who lives by his virtues and not merely by his emotions alone. This is what she wants in a man and this is the kind of leadership she will rely on in a relationship. It will provide her with the security she requires, and she will consistently place her faith in your ability to fulfill her needs.